my current skincare routine (am & pm)

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Preamble Ramble

Sometime in the past couple of weeks, I stopped wearing base makeup to work. Pics, ’cause it did happen:

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Yeah, the lighting in my bathroom is crappy, and okay, sure, the upper right hand picture is from the inside of a car when I was on my way to visit my uncle in the ER, not on the way to work, but the fact still stands: my skin’s been looking good enough that I’ve been skipping my base makeup.

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what to wear to a harry styles concert

Original image of Harry wearing a baby blue velvet women’s suit(!!!) via The Daily Styles.

I need to shower and sleep so I can actually function at work tomorrow, but Harry Styles is hosting The Late Late Show this week and I am simultaneously ALIVE and DYING!!! (Aren’t we all.) I mean just LOOK AT THAT GREEN VELVET AND HIS DREAM BOY HAIR AND DAD JOKES DELIVERED AT THE SPEED OF MOLASSES!!!

I mean, really, Louis said it best. Always in my heart, @Harry_Styles . Yours sincerely, Sam

I refuse to watch the rest of the clips because I know I’ll never go to bed, like that time I watched One Direction’s very first SNL performance and ended up on YouTube at 3AM watching them all trying to fit on one couch while talking over each other and generally being the worst interviewees ever, and I am not gonna let that happen to me this time!!!! (At least until the weekend, anyway.)

Back to the point of this post.

I was window shopping at Forever21 and came across these two glorious floral(-ish) patterned button-up shirts that reminded me of Harry’s $1500 dad shirts that he leaves unbuttoned down to his fourth nipple:

Leaf Print Shirt (white), $15.90 at Forever21. Floral Print Shirt (red), $15.90 at Forever21.

I don’t have four nipples, but I’m considering purchasing one of them to wear, maybe with some black skinny jeans and Chelsea boots, when I attend Harry’s solo(!!!) concert later this year, because I mean… these are $15.90, not $1500, and Harry Styles’ looks are iconic.

I am 100% sure that I’ll find more Harry-esque things while online window shopping, so watch this space.

lately (05.14.17)

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I started off this post with “well pals it’s been a long time since my last life update,” but then I realized… I haven’t posted any life updates on this blog. What a concept.

Anyway, it’s been never since my last life update, so here’s what I’ve been up to lately:

  • skivving off work for a hot second in order to obtain A SOLO TICKET FOR SOLO HARRY STYLES!!! 🌸🌺🌷🌹 I did try to buy multiple tickets at first, but after one failed search, I spooked and switched to searching for a single ticket, which I bought as soon as it appeared on my phone screen. The whole process took like a minute and a half, not counting the 5 minutes before the sale time when I sat there compulsively refreshing my phone, but it felt like I’d just run a marathon. I’ll be seeing him in San Francisco (#BLESSED) and I can’t WAIT to hear my beautiful frog prince son Harry Styles perform! The last time I saw him in concert was at One Direction’s Up All Night Tour in 2012, which is way too long ago. I’m especially looking forward to hearing “Carolina,” “Two Ghosts,” and “Ever Since New York” live.

WHAT. A. BABE.

Black mini backpack, black blazer with a bit of shoulder padding, black button-up shirt buttoned to the neck, all offset with her true red lipstick!!! Sartorial genius!!!

AN ICON. AN ANGEL.

💖

  • reading 8 Minutes Idle by Matt Thorne and honestly kinda loathing it every time I pick it up. I received the ebook for this when I Kickstarted the film project (because I liked Antonia Thomas so much in Misfits), but I find Dan SO unlikeable, and the scenarios he finds himself in get progressively more depraved and seem to serve no purpose in the story. :/
  • finishing my reread of Call Me By Your Name by André Aciman, which I started immediately after my first read, because it is that good. (It is hands-down the sexiest book I have ever read in my entire life.🍑) As with my first read, I highlighted a lot of sections in the Kindle app, although this time I was actually unable to export my highlights because I exceeded the publisher limit for exports… probably because I highlighted THIRTY-ONE PAGES of text. That’s 12.1% of the 256-page long book. If that’s not a convincing recommendation I don’t know what is.
  • reading The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas and cringing because it’s so accurate and casual in its depiction of the small and large indignities and injustices that people of color face – some groups more than others. While it’s occasionally heavy-handed, 1) some people need systemic racism spelled out for them, and 2) it’s hard not to fall in love with the characters and root for Starr, the Black teenage girl who narrates the story, and for her family and friends and neighbors and white-ass boyfriend. And frankly, it feels really fucking validating to read in print a story that acknowledges just how much white people DON’T GET IT!!! (See the fuck below.)

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(Photo by Kevin Banatte for The New York Times)

Reading The Hate U Give as person of color who is not Black is especially interesting because I don’t get all the African American cultural references, but I absolutely recognize Starr’s experiences with code switching, going the fuck off when someone makes comments that have no violent intent but that are still hurtful and racist, wondering if you’re good enough for your white partner in your interracial relationship, and being ride or die for your family. I don’t think I’ll ever feel safe joining a protest, but I can and will continue using my voice to say “Uh, hey, that’s kind of racist” even when it means calling out my family or friends or coworkers. Minority solidarity, y’all.

  • trying to wring as much enjoyment as I can out of my life while being stressed from trying to keep house for two adults other than myself

It’s Sunday afternoon and I suppose I should be meal prepping and reviewing my workload and whatnot for the coming week, but instead I’m trying out this pizza dough recipe from Smitten Kitchen, because life is short, and trying to make a heart-shaped pizza for my mom on Mother’s Day is more important than being a model employee, y’know?

(My previous from-scratch attempts have been with this slightly different recipe, but my results have been mediocre, I suspect because I don’t roll my dough out thin enough.)

Here’s to a good week, pals. 🥂

let’s talk about money, part ii: the state of the union

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featuring your host, the lovely Miss Lucifer Muffinbutz

As promised in my introductory let’s talk about money post, Part II (this post!) is all about the current state of my finances and how I got here.

Checkin’ My Privilege

To start, I have to acknowledge the lucky circumstances I was born into and the advantages I have been given. Here are some things:

I am an able-bodied, overall healthy, cisgender, Asian American woman in my mid-20s. I work in tech in the San Francisco Bay Area and receive a San Francisco Bay Area tech salary* and San Francisco Bay Area tech work perks, such as fully covered health insurance and free lunch more than once a week. I have a good relationship with my mom and family so I’ve been able to live at home since graduating from college. My mother was in a stable enough financial position at at least one point in her life to purchase a single family home, and I grew up in a safe neighborhood with good schools nearby. I had access to a computer and the internet at home while I was growing up, thanks to supportive extended family members. I have never had to choose between eating and keeping the lights on. I attended private school until 8th grade. I didn’t pay for college, so I was able to focus on my studies and graduate without student loan debt. I have never paid and still don’t pay for my own cell phone bill or car insurance (I drive approximately once every two years; I should really switch to Metromile or something else mileage-based so it’s cheaper). My current job is not especially stressful except when there are deadlines, which are few and far between.

*I’d like to note that I work at a startup, not a large public tech company. As such my base salary is significantly lower than that of, say, a software engineer at Google. Which is not to say it bothers me – I still have a very comfortable job – but for those to whom the Valley** all looks the same: I’m in a littler league than Google and Facebook.

**Silicon Valley. For those who have decried the use of “the Valley” to describe Silicon Valley, yes, people really do call it just “the Valley,” and no, nobody in the Bay Area thinks you mean the San Fernando Valley anymore. Language changes, y’all. Keep up.

Checkin’ Your Privilege

As I mentioned in my previous post, I feel guilty but not ashamed about my financial situation. This is because I’ve lived a life with many privileges and undeserved advantages, but I also don’t enjoy the same privileges as, say, a white dude born into an upper-middle class family. Here are some things:

I am an Asian American woman who works in tech, a male-dominated industry. I’ve worked with exactly 4 other engineers who are women in my career, and at least 34 engineers who are men. I have been sexually harassed by my coworkers because of my race. I was born and raised in San Francisco in a single parent family; I did not move here for my tech job. My mom struggled to make ends meet in order to send me to private school for K-8, though I didn’t realize it until college. This negatively impacted her ability to save for her own future. I attended a public high school. I also attended an in-state public university and graduated a semester early with a 3.87 GPA despite suffering from depression. I didn’t pay for college because I received a combination of federal aid (because our household income was low enough) and merit scholarships (because my grades were high enough) that were enough to cover all fees and tuition as well as housing and living costs. I entered the tech industry without a technical degree by qualifying for and then attending a 12-week coding bootcamp that doesn’t charge tuition until you find a job. Since I started my first full-time job, I’ve covered from 40-100% of the monthly mortgage payment on my mother’s house, depending on the month. I fully expect and intend to financially and practically assist my mom in her retirement and old age. My partner and I split shared expenses proportional to our incomes, which has historically been close to 50/50. (This ratio will probably change soon, but the proportional split won’t.)

A Financial Snapshot

I’ve been perusing /r/financialindependence more and more frequently over the past year or so, and while I’m still a long way from being financially independent, I find their community’s posting guidelines very useful for providing a relatively short but comprehensive overview of a person’s financial situation. Here’s a snapshot of my current financial situation, (mostly) following that format:

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high-neck, high-waisted one-piece swimsuit of my goddang dreams

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My partner and I are taking a quick trip to San Luis Obispo in a few weeks before he starts his new job, and I am PSYCHED to be taking a mini-vacation where I can spend most of the time half-naked instead of swaddled in layers of thermal underwear and puffer coats. (We’ve only been on trips together during the wintertime so far.)

For me, hot weather = flimsy bralettes and no underwire, so I was window shopping on Aerie as I am wont to do when I came across THESE AMAZING HIGH-NECK ONE PIECE SWIMSUITS:

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Cutout Ring One Piece Swimsuit in Team Green, $46.95 $40 at Aerie

Cutout Ring One Piece Swim Suit in Valentine, $52.95 $40 at Aerie

OhHhHhH my GOD. The high neck, the high waist, the torso cutouts!!! The green one feels kind of chic and modernized-retro, whereas the striped one honestly reeks of, like, the early 2000s to me, but in the best way?!

I already have a weakness for one-piece swimsuits/maillots because I think they’re way sexier than bikinis or two-pieces (plus you can actually swim in them), but I’m also particularly inclined to fall hard for high-necked swimsuit options because I have keloid scarring on my sternum area (from very mild pubescent acne that healed badly and scarred over into a few disproportionately large masses of raised scar tissue).

In the past I’ve just been like fuck it!!! I’ll wear whatever I want and people can avert their eyes if I’m too unsightly for them!!!, but the fact remains that my scars still get irritated and red and itchy and painful sometimes (a common complaint among people prone to keloids), and I am self-conscious about them.

That, plus the fact that scars sunburn more easily than other skin, plus the fact that owning a high-necked swimsuit that my boobs will actually stay put in would buy me a bit of mental freedom… seem to add up to I should buy at least one of these…

Shouldn’t I?

[EDIT: Reader, I bought them. They fit pretty well, although my bustline is quite low so I have to shove my boobs way up or else half of them hang out of the torso cutout. The fabric covering the torso also doesn’t lie perfectly flat on my body, but it helps the fit a lot if I tie the straps really tight. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Worth it.]

How I Spent My Money: April 2017

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As part of my effort to be financially #accountable, I’m going to try logging my monthly spending on this blog. I can’t make any guarantees about how consistent these posts will be, but here’s how April went.

Total spending: -$1457

(This is how much I spent in the month of April outside of fixed expenses. I track my expenses in whole dollars, always rounded up.)

First of all, lemme say… I went way, waaay over budget this month. This is mostly because of this first category here, which blew up pretty much overnight and continues to be hella expensive:

Emergency family-related expenses: -$640

This includes vending machine snacks while in the hospital, groceries and takeout for 4 people, and Lyft rides to and from work (for the injured, not for me). Being the temporary breadwinner of the family? ғᴇᴇʟs ʙᴀᴅ ᴍᴀɴ.

Eating out with my partner: -$217

This is under budget. Of that amount, $114 was spent on brunch, which is the meal we get the most satisfaction out of when eating out. $83 was spent on dinner, including one memorable Domino’s delivery ($12) wherein I finally got to see the Domino’s iOS app in action. (The design is very 2014, but now I see why my partner was so excited about it… two years ago.)

I should note that during the month of April, I briefly footed the entire bill for our meals during the handful of days when my partner was technically unemployed. I mean, technically he’s still unemployed, but it wasn’t long before we #confirmed that he would be starting a new job in June, at which point we decided to start splitting 60/40 even though his current income is nonexistent. (We’re splitting 60/40 based on salary alone, but he’ll be receiving (much) more overall compensation than me, so he insists on paying some of the time. I insist that we sign a prenup.)

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in which i fantasize about owning coveralls

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Speaking of really goddang cool coveralls/jumpsuits, turns out Forever21 has these 2 great options below, in blush pink and olive green:

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Buttoned Coverall Jumpsuit in Pink and Olive, $37.90 at Forever21

The above coveralls/jumpsuits are the same cut and design, but it’s kind of amazing what a difference the color makes – the olive green one on the right is making me revisit my previous Coverall Imagine™ involving cars and explosions and fauxtor oil, whereas the barely-there blush pink one on the left would clearly be worn by either a sexy veterinarian/pet rescue worker with a soft spot for black cats and very large dogs, or your sexy assigned lab partner for ChemE whose hair you can’t help but notice always smells faintly of coffee and Flowerbomb by Viktor & Rolf, and whose color-coded notes she always lets you borrow because she’s both a straight-A student and a good person.

…Anyway. I want a pair of coveralls now.

(It’s Colin’s #colinfluence.)